How can I explain? Yesterday I ran into this question. As more professionals do.
Do you recognize feeling fact-based certain about a provider, a candidate, a course, a conference, a result, an outcome or something else? That hiring, participating, acquiring or quitting would be a perfect match for you, the team and the organization?
However, not being able to convince co-decision makers to move on with you?
Which can be a frustrating moment, a missed opportunity as well as a couple of days of confusion about what exactly happened. How could it turn this side?
Which you can leave as is. Or learn from it for a next chance.
I bet you want to improve your skills and I know you have the courage to face it, so:
#1 Face the gap you’ve fallen into. What did you overlook? Where did you move too fast? Did you tried to convince people of something they judged differently? Did you say what’s needed to be said, at the right time, in the right way and with the right words or silence?
What’s the bridge you need to build a next time and with what material? Room to grow and grab the next opportunity:-).
#2 Reflect upon the process. What was the exact moment people started to withdraw themselves? The moment you’ve changed from powerful to kind of indifferent about the subject?
#3 On a piece of paper, note the results people didn’t get and could have won. What words did you write down you didn’t use?
As long as you’re heartfelt and fact-based convinced about the matter, one thing is crystal clear. You can learn from what didn’t work out and strike the right chord sooner or later.
Don’t quit, do better.
Met vriendelijke groet / Kind regards,
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