Do you recognize actually disliking taking the initiative to contact people? Because you’re scared that people don’t want to talk to you? And if people don’t want to talk with you, it leaves you feeling like a failure and being rejected.
What's in between your ideas, plans and care and final results... is what you expect.
Your experiences with reaching out before.
Your needs which leave ample space for others to react differently and still contribute to your plans.
And your own beliefs, convictions, judgments and perspectives, which overrule those of the person you’ve reached out to.
3 tips to do reach out even when you feel scared to do so:
TIP #1: Check in with your main intention to reach out. What is it that makes reaching out worth it? No matter the outcome! What is it you are trying to accomplish for others? What is it that you care for?
TIP #2: Set your intention to be of help to the person you reach out. No matter his or her response on your invitation. E.g. keep your invitation clear and concise. 2 topics max. Or intent to give the person invited any space he or she needs. Your intentions to be of help so you can feel OK with any respons (yes, no or other) in return.
TIP #3: Just do it. Reach out. Invite people. And consciously be aware you've did reach out, You’ve invited someone. Because even a yes isn't a guarantee for results. Its actions that generate results. So, deem taking action as more valuable than positive feedback. In the end, the result counts. However, it is only through action that you can achieve that result. Actions help you take the right direction. Over and over again. To head one way, the other or a 3rd way.
Reach out, no matter what. It’s the only way to achieve your goals, to generate the results you need to do good, to help others and to do what you’re good at for the case you care for. At your level, and in a knowledge-driven work environment, your colleagues and customers are people. And you will only achieve your (organization's) goals when you do take action and invite them.
Met vriendelijke groet / Kind regards,
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