I thought I cared. And I discovered I didn’t, at least… not for all I cared about. I cared with peaks and troughs. Amongst others, I care about my family, my environment and many relations. And meanwhile I did care a lot less. I had my ideas, however, often I did not (consistently) undertook the action to put this care into practice.
Until I realized that true care is active care.
Which doesn’t mean you immediately should jump up from behind your screen to present your idea, to write that report or to do the research now :-). Active care is also listening to others. Listening with the only intention to really get to understand.
Thinking you care and practically doing nothing in line with this care, doesn’t change a thing. It keeps you stuck. Repetitive thinking about (possible) problems or great opportunities gets you nowhere. Nor others.
True care requires action. True care is a matter of doing. The decision to go, step-by- step and learn along the way, for positive change.
There’s no care perceived, received or spread without the action to step forward, speak up, write it down and show people what you’re up to. True care is done, not thought.
To really make a difference for the people or other cause you care about, aligned action is required. Doing in sync with your care.
Like, you don’t really care about your dog if you only notice it should go out for a walk. You do care for it when you then do take it out for a walk.
Like for your work, for which you ‘see’ things could be done better. The way customers are served, team members are supported or the work is delivered. As long as you don’t take any action, you don’t really care.
And yes, it takes courage to do care. To step forward, to speak up or whatever action you come up with to start realizing positive change. E.g., to do differently as you did before or are supposed to in your function. However, if you do care, action is the way to go.
3 aligned actions to do care:
Aligned action #1: Stop avoiding the things you care about.
If something keeps knocking on your door, it’s time for a go or no go decision. And if you decide to go, you can trust you will see how you can make a difference and where to start, without getting too uncomfortable. If you keep avoiding what you care for, you definitely will get uncomfortable. Uncomfortable, sooner or later, by regretting the things you did ‘see’ but didn’t do.
Aligned action #2: Decide to do care - or stop caring about it.
Decide if the cause is worth your energy, time, money or relations. Can you imagine yourself regretting not taking action sooner or later? If you don’t, then decide to quit the topic and enjoy the space you thereby create for the topics you do care about.
Aligned action #3: Choose one tiny next action step forward and carry it out as soon as you can.
Which action stops you from repeating your story about a problem you can handle or an opportunity you face. Send those supporting lines, offer your help and time, do pick up the rubbish or send some money to charity. Taking action, one step at a time, puts your care into practice.
The minute you decide to do care, you step into a journey for which you definitely cannot imagine upfront how it will unfold. You will learn what you need to learn along the way and grow with it.
The decision to really do care is a decision to go.
To live a life of no regrets; stop caring, start doing. At work, at home and for everything else you care for.
Met vriendelijke groet / Kind regards,
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