Do you recognize you were astonished nothing was done with your idea? Or that after the meeting your realized your concerns even got bigger? Or maybe you remember no one really wanted to 'see' your perspective on the matter.
What could have stood in your way to achieve even a tiny bit?
Your knowledge. You've already spend time on your topic. You've figured it out. Where other people, even if they've red your preparation for the meeting, didn't had time for reflection and (internal) research. And when you've used the allocated time for your topic to present the topic, in even more detail, once more, people can't dive in themselves, bring their questions and concerns and therefore quickly loose interest.
Your own agenda, your own goals. You know your topic inside out, you know what you're up to. So, leave your goals at your desk, in your screen. And allow other people to figure out if your topic can support them achieving their goals too.
Your eagerness to make it happen, your enthusiasm. In a stage where people need to think, verify, figure things out for themselves, your energy can be overwhelming. Calm, clear and concisely stating what you want is what people need to be able to help you move on.
3 tips to reach out for real connection:
TIP #1: State 1 or 2 topics max. Calm, clear and concise. 1 sentence. And then wait.
TIP #2: Give people the space they need to formulate their own thoughts in their own words. And if that takes seconds, or even minutes, just wait for them to start talking. Keep your mouth shut.
TIP #3: Answer any questions as precise, but concise as you can. And when doubt, loosing track or chaos occurs, verify you're on the same path. You understand each other. And then again, keep your mouth shut:-).
Reaching out for real connection is about giving people space to respond as suits them in the moment. So a clear, concise topic you invite them for is the only thing they can use in this stage. The topic they want to re-arrange their own thoughts around or not.
Met vriendelijke groet / Kind regards,
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